The fact is, there are so few things over which we have control. Beyond decisions like where to live, type of career to pursue, whether to see the glass as half full or half empty – because, indeed that is a choice – there are very few things over which we have real control. Control is an illusion, one that impedes resilience and results in our suffering. Better to acknowledge that reality, let go of the need to control, and move forward with confidence and courage. To continue this discussion, click here. Thanks!
A Little Fear Is a Good Thing… A few years ago, when my younger son and I left my ex-husband and moved into an apartment, I discovered a quote that I fell in love with. It simply says, “If you can’t beat fear, do it scared.” Every morning I’d read that quote and ask myself if there was anything I was afraid of. And there was: I’m a writer. I write memoir. And I was writing at the time. What would my ex have to say? Would there be any repercussions? But I kept writing. I hit send, my work was published, and I survived. In fact, I thrived. And I learned something really important: a little fear is a good thing. For more, join me here.
So, you land your dream job and not a week into it you make some unsettling discoveries. Your boss is a micromanager. Your boss is at his or her desk 24/7 and expects you to do the same. You try for a while, but it’s not working out. Finally, you leave, maybe for another job, maybe to take time to regroup. When this happens, we need to ask ourselves, what did I miss? During the interview process or when I met the team, what did I miss? Sometimes there are things we didn’t notice or chose to ignore. But sometimes we didn’t miss anything. It just didn’t work out. And that’s because this isn’t Hollywood. It’s real life. For more, join me here.
During my husband’s battle with cancer I learned a lot. I learned how to jump start the car in the dark and race to the hospital at warp speed without getting a ticket. I learned how to give a shot (step 1. close your eyes). I even learned how to make our health insurance company pay bills they tried to get out of paying. Hello, Blue Cross? Do you really mean to not pay the anesthesiologist? Was my husband supposed to be awake for the procedure? Or maybe you’d have preferred he scrub in and assist? But the biggest lesson I learned came at the end of Stu’s life when he said, “Susan, I miss my life.” Then and there I promised myself never to miss a moment of my life again. For more, click below. Thanks!