I think a lot about flaws, and I talk to lots of people, mostly women, who are stuck on what they perceive as their flaws. Even yesterday, a very dear friend who’s also a super successful businesswoman called me to go over a list (a list!) she’d made of things she doesn’t like about herself.

As she read off the list, I thought, “But these are the very qualities that have made you so successful! Why would you want to be rid of them?”

I suggested she embrace them. That she be patient with her “flaws” and herself, and love her unique traits for all the ways they serve her.

Certainly we should always seek to improve, but it’s equally as important to accept ourselves and appreciate that

how we are has helped make us who we are.

For real growth and self-improvement to happen, we must accept ourselves, flaws and all, first.