There Is No Control

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The fact is, there are so few things over which we have control. Beyond decisions like where to live, type of career to pursue, whether to see the glass as half full or half empty – because, indeed that is a choice – there are very few things over which we have real control. Control is an illusion, one that impedes resilience and results in our suffering. Better to acknowledge that reality, let go of the need to control,  and move forward with confidence and courage.  To continue this discussion, click here. Thanks!

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A Little Fear Is A Good Thing

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A Little Fear Is a Good Thing… A few years ago, when my younger son and I left my ex-husband and moved into an apartment, I discovered a quote that I fell in love with. It simply says, “If you can’t beat fear, do it scared.” Every morning I’d read that quote and ask myself if there was anything I was afraid of. And there was: I’m a writer. I write memoir. And I was writing at the time. What would my ex have to say? Would there be any repercussions? But I kept writing. I hit send, my work was published, and I survived. In fact, I thrived. And I learned something really important: a little fear is a good thing.  For more, join me here.

When Things Don’t Work Out

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So, you land your dream job and not a week into it you make some unsettling discoveries. Your boss is a micromanager. Your boss is at his or her desk 24/7 and expects you to do the same. You try for a while, but it’s not working out. Finally, you leave, maybe for another job, maybe to take time to regroup. When this happens, we need to ask ourselves, what did I miss? During the interview process or when I met the team, what did I miss? Sometimes there are things we didn’t notice or chose to ignore. But sometimes we didn’t miss anything. It just didn’t work out. And that’s because this isn’t Hollywood. It’s real life. For more, join me here.

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Say Yes, and Figure It Out Later

A few years ago, I was offered a job I never in a million years thought would come my way. I couldn’t believe it. I was honored, touched, thrilled, and convinced I better say, “no thanks.” I mean, how could I take that job?  I didn’t have the skills, the experience, the years of sweating in the trenches that it would take. I’d get fired. Or would I?