No Guilt

A wise woman once told me, “Guilt is a wasted emotion.” It’s like sitting in a rocking chair; it’ll give you something to do, but it’s not going to get you anywhere. In fact, the only place guilt takes us is down a deep, dark rabbit hole of self-loathing where lots of us (present company included) like to set up camp and stew about what lousy human beings we are. We’re not lousy human beings. We’re simply human. For more, join me here.

You’ve got to laugh

“Sometimes a laugh is the only weapon we have.” Roger Rabbit

You’ve got to laugh. People frequently ask me how I find the humor in hopeless situations like cancer caregiving and raising a child with autism. The answer is pretty simple: humor gives me distance, it gives me the chance to step back, get a grip, and get on with it. For me, it’s the equivalent of putting your oxygen mask on first, and then helping someone else with theirs. Click here for more. #humorbuildsresilience

Thought the of Day

Be present for your life.

Today’s thought of the day is simple but significant. Live In The Moment. I remind myself to do this almost constantly. Stay in the moment, Susan. Be present right now. Don’t let your to-do list or anxiety or unruly adult ADHD take your brain racing off to some imagined future place or worse, some place in the past. Life is short. Don’t miss it. Stay in the moment. Sometimes it’s tough. I could be having a conversation that’s bothering me, setting alarm bells off in my belly, and my mind wants to run away to the beach or go over my grocery list or whatever. But I need to pay attention to the alarm bells. They are, as my friend Marianne Clyde says, information, and I need that information. Whatever it is my gut is trying to tell me I need to hear. So being present isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary. Don’t miss a minute of today, my friends. Live in this moment. It’s not coming around again.

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Raising a child with autism

Raising a child with autism is the topic of today’s episode of Flaws Are The New Black. You can watch it on YouTube  and I hope you will. I appreciate the feedback (this is only my second episode) and am eager to begin an ongoing conversation with you about oh, everything under the sun!

Marriage, divorce, the death of a spouse, dating (eek!), caregiving, surviving a narcissist, hair (of course!), aging, weight (have you seen my collection of fat shirts?), finances, friendships (the good, the bad, the God I gotta get outta this one!), I want to talk about it all with you.

Thanks for watching and commenting and for all of your support.

And for those of you wondering how my “write drunk, edit sober” experiment is going, stay tuned!

Love,

Susan