You know how I love to talk
You know how I love to talk about embracing our flaws and using that self-acceptance and humor to help build resilience. Well, today I got to talk about all that and more with my friends at the Wisdom Coalition. I've known co-hosts Nancy Werteen and Kim Howie since my...
Celebrate the Small Stuff
We celebrate the big stuff. We land the big client, get to the 5am exercise class four-months straight, finish the project ahead of schedule so we celebrate. Of course we should! But on the way to those things there are other things that transpire; mini milestones...
Take it at Your Own Pace
So maybe you're writing a new book, you've launched a new product, you just left your job to start your own business. Maybe you just bought a fixer-upper that you're starting to work on. Whatever it is, you’ve got to take it at your own pace (and for Pete's sake,...
First TEDx Talk + New Website = 2020 is Rocking!
Happy New Year Friends and Family, I'm thrilled to tell you that my first ever TEDx Talk is up and on YouTube. I hope you enjoy it and I hope you'll feel free to share it with all those who could benefit from my message. I am also thrilled because in honor of my talk,...
Do nothing. Clarify everything.
What do I mean by nothing? Walk away from the project or situation that has you banging your head against the wall and do something completely different. Read a book, take a walk, call a friend, meditate. Do nothing that relates to the situation or task at hand. A...
Playing Small Is Canceled
Now and for the foreseeable future, no more playing small. Instead, we’re going to embrace Marianne Williamson’s words: "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond all measure.” Let’s decide right now not to be...
They want to fly first class. I want to own the plane.
Recently I heard the expression, “They want to fly first class. I want to own the plane.” and it caught my attention. Because it’s so far beyond how I usually think. I’m a huge cheerleader; I encourage others and I think I encourage myself and yet – it never crossed...
Only You Can Limit Your Greatness
You are the only one who can limit your greatness. How do I know this to be true? Because when my eldest was diagnosed with autism, we were told he'd never live on his own, never hold a job, never drive, and never manage his own money. Guess what? Those doctors were...
It’s not having what you want. It’s wanting what you’ve got.
Do you remember the song “Soak Up the Sun” by Sheryl Crow? She sang those lines, “It's not having what you want. It's wanting what you’ve got,” and they stopped me cold on the street on my way to work. I was so saddened and depressed by the job I was going to. It was...
When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubts
“When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubts.” Think about that. It’s brilliant! I wish I’d come up with it. When we doubt our power, when we doubt the thing we know we're great at, when we doubt what we know is the reason God put us on this planet, when...
When someone you love is grieving
When someone we love is grieving, our first inclination is to do or say something helpful. So, we rush in bearing food and hugs, and then we stand there, searching for the right thing to say. And then, because we're just clumsy about grief and grieving in this...
Super Stressed? Get Grateful.
Did you know that the quickest way to feel better when work has you super stressed is to express gratitude? It is. And it's easy to do. Open your eyes and look, really look, for the silver lining in the "project that never ends" or the "boss who never found a...
5 Do’s and a Do-over
Do you make New Year’s resolutions? I don’t. Not new ones, anyway. Instead, I simply remind myself of the decisions I made a few years ago after my husband’s death. I call them my 5 Do's and a Do-over (because everyone deserves at least one do-over!) and share them in...
No Is A Complete Sentence
Have you ever set aside time to work on a big project only to have a colleague burst into your office the moment you start to dig in and say, “Hey! Have you got time for a quick meeting?” I’m willing to bet you have. I have. And what I want to know is, what did you...
There Is No Control
The fact is, there are so few things over which we have control. Beyond decisions like where to live, type of career to pursue, whether to see the glass as half full or half empty – because, indeed that is a choice – there are very few things over which we have real...
A Little Fear Is A Good Thing
A Little Fear Is a Good Thing... A few years ago, when my younger son and I left my ex-husband and moved into an apartment, I discovered a quote that I fell in love with. It simply says, “If you can’t beat fear, do it scared.” Every morning I’d read that quote and ask...
When Things Don’t Work Out
So, you land your dream job and not a week into it you make some unsettling discoveries. Your boss is a micromanager. Your boss is at his or her desk 24/7 and expects you to do the same. You try for a while, but it’s not working out. Finally, you leave, maybe for...
Are You Missing Your Life?
During my husband’s battle with cancer I learned a lot. I learned how to jump start the car in the dark and race to the hospital at warp speed without getting a ticket. I learned how to give a shot (step 1. close your eyes). I even learned how to make our health...